protect your memories from others
I was thinking about this guy I dated. He was so scared of everything all the time. Despite this, he was the kind of guy who was destined for a life of zero material struggle. My friend and I were talking about how that destiny is a heavy burden to carry. To have no struggle, no friction, is to never grow or change. We visualized a life in which you stay the same but all the people you love outgrow you. If you can't accept that fate, the only alternative is to try to sabotage theirs. The only way you can do that is if you mess with their memories.
It wasn't just me. He'd do it with everyone. I'd watch him talk about his friends as if their unique traits where to be fixed. They threatened him for some reason. I specifically remember when we talked about a mutual friend who was very creative but hesitant about it. He was complaining about his vision, rewriting it as some kind of psychological complex. I said that I thought it was cool, and it was a really unique modern perspective. This seemed to confuse and offend him, he quickly changed the subject. It was like watching his thought process real time of how he can change our friend's impression of himself and his experiences.
Looking back he definitely did the same to me. He's probably doing it to everyone in his life. It feels unfair, because people like this have no materialistic explanation to act this resentfully. These people don't really kill for stability like other humans, they suffocate for the feeling. It's scary to think about. Someone's materialism doesn't reflect their quality of character. Behind a white collared position can exist a lot of confusion and brutality.
I think the easiest way to spot these people is if they have exaggerated anxieties. There's also a metaphysical karma to it, they spend so much time trying to rewrite other's memories that their own memory is awful. They make fools of themselves constantly even if they don't recognize it. There's no where inside them to anchor so they sink and drown. They're also funny enough, not particularly memorable in the grand scheme of things.
I mentioned before that our memories can't be fully trusted. I don't think this reflection negates that. Your memories are very malleable and can be shaped for or against you. There is so much trying to use your mind against you, even if they are people that don't fully realize what they're doing.
